The title of Tess Sanchez’s debut book of essays comes from a phrase she used regularly in her work as a casting director. Yet, when the Hollywood veteran – responsible for selecting the faces who populated such beloved series as Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Supernatural, Brooklyn Nine-Nine, and The Mindy Project – found herself on the receiving end of that “gentle” letdown when she lost her job five years ago, she sought to examine how significantly one’s career dominates their sense of self. The wife, mother, and daughter – all identity markers she was forced to reexamine following her professional upheaval – chats with actor Becca Tobin at this book talk. – Carys Anderson